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The Exchange · the namesake

Where deposits become tradable

Post a favor, set the reward, let them claim it or counter it. Complete it, bank it, redeem it.

The Exchange
Fold all the laundryposted by your partner · claimable
Cuddling, 20 minutesclaimed · not finished yet
ServingAcceptingTakingAllowing
Giving & ReceivingWho it is for, made explicit
BankedRedeem whenever
The problem

“I’d do anything for you” rarely survives contact with Tuesday. Generosity dies in vagueness — good intentions with nowhere to land and no way to ask.

How a favor actually moves

Posted, claimed or countered, completed, banked. Every step in its own encrypted conversation.

Post an offer, or a gift

Say what you are offering and what you would love back — or send it one-way, a single arrow, nothing asked in return.

The four doors

Betty Martin’s quadrants, so an offer always names both halves: who is doing it, and who it is for.

TakingServingAcceptingAllowing
Claim, counter, or talk

Counter-edits glow, so you can see exactly what changed.

The Bank

Completed favors, held until you want them. Deposits add up; nothing counts down.

Rewards from the Directory

Pick from the vocabulary you have both already marked.

Every offer has a thread

Its own encrypted conversation, so negotiating is part of it rather than a separate argument.

How you use it

1Post an offer

Say what you're offering and what you'd love in return — in your own words, drawn from the Directory or invented on the spot. Or make it a gift: one arrow, no reward asked, just because.

2Claim, counter, or talk first

Your partner can take the deal, counter it — their edits glow so you see exactly what changed — or open the offer's own encrypted conversation and negotiate properly.

3Complete, bank, redeem

Done favors land in the Bank. Redeem when the moment is right. The ledger both of you can see is the point — generosity, witnessed.

Why it's worth doing

Acts of service need a marketplace

Most generosity dies in vagueness — "I'd do anything for you" rarely survives contact with Tuesday. Named favors with named rewards turn goodwill into things that actually happen.

The emotional ledger
Negotiation is intimacy

The counter-offer isn't haggling — it's two people saying what they actually want out loud, with a structure that keeps it playful.

The Wheel · Betty Martin
The ledger describes, it never grades

No scores, no debt, no who-owes-whom guilt. Deposits add up; nothing counts down. The app describes what happened between you — it never grades who you are.

A hard rule in our design
You can't download this anywhere else

Question decks and mood check-ins exist elsewhere. A favor economy between two people, riding an encrypted channel, with a bank — that's the part that's only here.

The namesake
The emotional bank accountDrs. John & Julie Gottman
+Fold all the laundryclaimed +Twenty minutes, no phonescompleted A hard week, cashed inredeemed

Every small deposit is banked before it is needed. The Exchange is that ledger made literal — posted, claimed, completed, redeemed.

The Wheel of ConsentDr. Betty Martin
it is for me  ·  it is for you I am doing  ·  you are doing
TakingI am doing · for me ServingI am doing · for you Acceptingyou are doing · for me Allowingyou are doing · for you

Two questions, asked separately: who is doing it, and who it is for. Answer both and the four quadrants appear — which is why an offer in The Exchange always names both halves.

Post your first offer

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While you're here

Deposits are banked before they are needed. That is the whole idea.

The emotional bank account is Gottman's, and it is the reason the Exchange keeps a ledger rather than a scoreboard — every small thing you do lands somewhere you can both see.

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