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The tracker
A ten-second check-in, rings the two of you fill together, and the trend over weeks — not vibes.
You measure your steps, your sleep and your screen time. The relationship that decides most of your happiness is the one thing nobody gives you a number for — so “how have we been lately?” gets answered from memory, which is the worst instrument there is.
Five dimensions, three rings, and a trend that only means something over weeks.
Five dimensions — Connection, Responsiveness, Regulation, Repair Attempts, Partner Experience — one tap each, or one tap for all five when it has been that kind of day.
A dimension drifting down is information, not a verdict — and it links you straight into the piece that addresses it.
Six weeks tells you something. One Tuesday tells you nothing.
Check in, message, question. The message ring is fifty-fifty — you each paint your half.
Two each, because life happens. Nothing turns red, nothing breaks, nothing scolds.
The calendar with your logged connections on it. Open any day and see what actually happened.
Where the two of you read a day differently — which is usually the interesting part.
One tap logs your day across five dimensions: mood, connection, energy, appreciation, responsiveness. Do it over morning coffee.
Check In, Message, Question — three rings, and the Message ring is fifty-fifty: both of you paint your half. The week strip fills a day at a time.
Trends over weeks, your longest runs, and the calendar of logged connections. Information, never a verdict — missing a day is data, not a judgment.
Research on thousands of couples found stable relationships run about five positive interactions for every negative one. You can't manage a ratio you never measure.
Drs. John & Julie GottmanSmall deposits, made regularly, are what couples draw on in hard weeks. The tracker makes the balance visible — deposits add up, never debt.
Drs. John & Julie Gottman"How have we been lately?" is a terrible question to answer from memory. Two weeks of ten-second check-ins answers it with a line you can both look at.
Our vitals designNo red marks, no broken streaks, no guilt mechanics. Freezes hold your run when life happens. The app describes what happened; it never grades who you are.
A hard rule in our designStable couples run about five positive exchanges to every negative one during conflict — not zero negatives. The daily check-in is what makes your own ratio visible.
A bid is any small reach for attention. What separates couples who last is not the grand gesture — it is how often the small reach gets answered.
The Gottmans watched thousands of couples to land on that number. The surprising half is that stable couples are not the ones with no negatives at all.